What if Marriage is Supposed to Make Us Holy not Happy?
Now think about that for just a moment...society tell us we need to find our 'soul-mate' so we can be happy for ever, never be alone, and grow old together. But when it comes down to it, that isn't really the purpose of marriage now is it?
The truth is, marriage is hard work. Yes we all have our happy moments and moments where we laugh so hard tears come pouring out of our eyes, but in reality, there is a lot of giving up of oneself and compromising because we want to keep our spouses happy too. In some instences, we give up our own means of happiness because we don't want our spouse to give up anymore of their happiness. Or on the flip side, we are so selfish and think we have given up so much already we don't care if our spouse suffers. It takes years of hard work and lots of prayer to learn to come to a happy medium in your marriage. My husband and I have been married for four months, sometimes it feels like we have been together forever because we seem to flow so well together. Other times it feels like I have married a stranger and I have no idea what I am doing or how I even got there.
This brings me back to that title-What if marriage is supposed to make us Holy and not Happy? My husband and I have a lot of good examples of what a marriage is supposed to look like, and it's true, your marriage is supposed to make you more holy and more like Jesus. Jesus sacrificed so much and gave up everything for us because He loved us SO MUCH. Jesus didn't care what the price was, He just wanted to be with us. He was beaten and killed because of His love for us. A holy and just love. This is how I want to love my husband. I want to learn to love him so much that I would allow myself to be sacrificed over him so he could continue on in this life telling others about such a love.
My conclusion: Marriage is supposed to make us Holy and more like Jesus, not make us happy. Happiness fades, but love, joy, and holiness last forever.