Wednesday, July 9, 2014

She wore what!??!

This is a topic that has been getting me more and more fired up.  Modesty.  Mostly modesty in women.  Who cares about men being modest, because after all, especially in Christian bubbles, modesty is solely a woman's issue.  In a world where MAN has made WOMAN a sex symbol for thousands of years, women are the ones who are condemned and shamed for what they wear and how they wear it... even if MAN tells them it is ok at first.. then turns around and calls that woman a whore.

In our little modern Christian bubbles today, why is this topic still left at women being at fault?  'Woman, cover yourselves because you will cause man to stumble.'  'Don't wear yoga pants, because you will cause my mind to falter.' 'Woman, don't wear those heels so high, because I feel like they are too sexy.'

What about the men walking around topless because they felt too hot?  What about the wanna be hipster youth pastor who is wearing his jeans sooo tight that his junk is screaming: LOOK AT ME!!  Or how about the senior pastor who decides to wear a white button up top, with no undershirt to church that Sunday and you can clearly see his nipples when he stands on stage because of the lights shining behind him?

The bible clearly states that each person is responsible for his or her own thoughts and actions.  GUARD your hearts and your minds brother and sisters.  It also states that Gods peace is here to help you (Philippians 4:7)!  Do not rely on women or men to keep themselves covered from head to toe to keep yourself mentally clean.  At the same time... brothers and sisters,  the bible also states that we should help each other out and don't cause each other to stumble (1 Corinthians 8:9).  That goes for BOTH sexes.  Women, help a brother out and cover up your boobs and keep your girly bits covered.  MEN quit wearing your pants so tight that you are cutting off your chances for having children in the future.  You too are a sex symbol when you think its ok to take off your top anytime you feel like it, if the weather permits.  MEN, you also cause a weaker women to stumble when you are not dressing or behaving modestly.

Men and women, BE MODEST.  This is not a topic that men can berate women about, men, you are responsible for yourself, and how you dress as well. If you feel an individual is dressing inappropriately, personally speak with them.  If some one is a new believer, guide them with LOVE and wisdom until Christ speaks to their hearts, and through Christ they will change.  I beg you fellow Christians to drop the double standards and practice LOVE when you need to correct someone in their modesty.  Show them biblical references in LOVE, do not just use your own words.  Modesty is relative in the since that each person is in a different place of their journey.  Our God is a big God and will speak to each individual with love when it is time for them to change their outside appearance to match their heart inside.

Let me end with this:
1 Corinthians 13:1-3
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I
have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

I am 'That' mom.

There I was, sitting in the car wash killing the minutes, drinking my coffee, with no plans to go home.  I was just wasting time.  My only plans were to drive around or sit in empty parking lots for as long as I had to.  I hate to admit this, because I used to think it was so silly when I heard stories of other mothers doing this.  But I was desperate, and my stubborn pride was tossed out the car window. 

I had sleeping baby in the back seat, and there was no way I was going to wake her up.  Gosh darn it all!  I just needed a moment of peace and quiet!!!

You would think that my now eleven month old would be sleeping through the night already... But, not my child.  Not my sweet precious angel faced child.  Her big sister was playing at a friends house, I was planning on just dropping off child #1 and going straight home with child #2 to get some cleaning done.  Then it happened.  That sweet squishy faced baby who screamed all night long, who screams whenever I leave the room, who screams every time her daddy puts her down... she fell asleep.. and it was completely silent.  I could finally breathe.

So there you have it: I am 'that' mom.  I have became the mother that I had made fun of in the past. 

My perfect ideal life would be, that I would have kids and their lives would revolve around mine, not take over my life.  Some people might be able to pull that off... but during that moment as I sat in the car wash a light bulb turned on.  These so called crazy mothers were just trying to survive!  Through all the craziness being a mother brings, you just have to steal that moment of peaceful silence whenever and where ever you can grab it!  Whether that means leaving your sleeping toddler on the couch sometimes instead of carrying them to their bed... or staying in your car an extra forty-five minutes because your baby fell asleep in the back seat.

I learned a valuable lesson that day as I sat in the car wash drinking my coffee with a sleeping baby in the back...  I learned that I judge too much.  Mama's we are all going through this together!  We should encourage one another.. because we are all longing for that moment of peaceful silence..  So instead of telling that mama who drives around in her car to help her baby sleep she is silly... Lift her up and acknowledge that she is doing the best she can!